We build strong bond and romantic relationship with people on Facebook every day. I mean, almost every day. But, have you thought about why you would like to use Facebook and wondered if there is anything affects your decision on using Facebook? The research has found that self-satisfaction and self-disclosure are two main factors which will affect users’ intensity of Facebook use positively and negatively. It is quite interesting to discover how human’s inner world works to have such big effect on our communication of romantic relationship with others on Facebook.
The first article wrote by Reynol Junco argues that people with more self-satisfaction tend to use Facebook more and “perform” well when communicating with friends on Facebook, especially with someone in romantic relationship. I believe it is true because as for me, I only speak and chat openly and freely when I feel confident. Confidence somehow in my opinion is the product of self-satisfaction. For instance, I have some friends who recently just found their first job after graduated. They suddenly became another kind of people who were extremely confident to face new challenges and new life, and they shared their happiness with me on Facebook immediately. Some people say that they are showing off, but I think the reason why they “performed” like that on Facebook is because they feel satisfied to themselves, to their working abilities. For those days after they got their jobs, I could see their posts about happiness and excitement on Facebook every day, every moment. Obviously, self-satisfaction increases their intensity of Facebook use.
In contrast, the article about self-disclosure and its relationship with Facebook using wrote by Whitney and Kirsten gives us a totally opposite view of how our inner world affects our decision on Facebook using. It argues that users with self-disclosure do not use Facebook to communicate much. These users keep them silent and cut off the connection with the outside world due to their mental problem. For example, users who have self-disclosure may suspend their account and stop using Facebook anymore. Stop using Facebook and any romantic relationship with others maybe is their way to protect themselves from being bothered by people around them.
We see Facebook is not only a bridge connecting users’ inner worlds with outside worlds, but it is also the medium to reflect people’s themselves.
Both sources talk about when people try to make decision about sharing positive news and negative news related to their lives and romantic relationships, they tend to share the positive news or posts indirectly and negative posts directly. I find this is a very interesting topic to talk about especially when it has connection with Facebook users’ romantic relationships with others. But, I only partly agree with the points of view of two articles’ authors. Sometimes, users also share positive posts and information directly and negative posts indirectly.
Stephanie Pappas mentioned that Facebook users are not bragging. That is true but if we see bragging in another perspective, we could find out that bragging on Facebook actually sometimes is a form of direct sharing. For example, a young man and a young woman announce their wedding date and they share the wedding information on Facebook to attract attention, this is bragging and people always are willing to share the information directly because something good are going to happen and people love good things. It is a good example to tell people that privacy sometimes can be properly shared directly and what makes this happen, is a kind of special romantic relationship between people and people. People may not have romantic relationship with their normal friends but the friendship is a unique form of romantic relationship between friends and friends.
Not all negative news and posts are shared directly, also. Recently, after Cristiano Ronaldo broke up with his ex-girlfriend, Irina Shayk, the news was not directly shared by people at the first time. Rather, this negative and sad news was shared and announced by media and Ronaldo and Irina’s clients. This breaking news then, after announced, was directly shared by people and fans on Facebook and Instagram. However, Irina Shayk did not say ‘we are done’ or something sad or negative on Facebook. Rather, she posted some pictures which depict the beautiful views in Maldives where she spent good time with her family on vacation there. This is another way to share negative information of news or events in a positive way and what Irina did was quite smart and directly shared by other people. Seeing negative information in positive perspective is another interesting thing that I found out in people’s romantic relationship on Facebook!!!
The two articles give me clear understanding on people’s attitude and factors which affect people while making decision on sharing positive and negative feeds, especially the second article with experimental data is more convincing than the first article to tell people the fact. I would like to say that romantic relationship is something about human emotions and emotions always are unpredictable. We need to stay objective when we see how people interact with different types of information of feeds.